a woman chained to her bed

Insomnia: I Just Need to Sleep

There are things that need to be done earlier in the day, but I would rather not do them. There are times when some appointments must be scheduled in the morning, and I would rather skip them. Sometimes my phone rings early in the morning, and I choose to ignore it. I would rather sleep.

When I say I would rather sleep, it is not laziness that keeps me chained to the bed. I do not sleep well, and I do not sleep much. When I finally do get to sleep, it is always morning. It seems everyone wants my attention in the morning or wants me to do things in the morning. I just need to sleep.

My normal schedule is not your normal schedule

People think getting things done first thing in the morning is normal. Some prefer it, but they fail to consider that not everyone is awake at the crack of dawn. Normal is different for everyone, and my normal is that 9 or 10 AM is very early. It is like asking you to get up in the middle of the night to do something.

I understand that is normal for you, and I understand that you like to get things done early and have the rest of the day. Please understand that I often do get up very early after getting only 2 to 3 hours of sleep, if that, to accommodate your preferred schedule. I need you to understand that if I decline, it means I am too exhausted. I need to sleep.

Accommodating others is exhausting

It seems insensitive at times that people do not consider that their schedule is not a schedule that everyone follows. If I am up at sunrise, it is because I have yet to sleep. If I am awake before 11 AM, it is because someone insists I bend to their schedule. Normally, I do. However, I now have health issues that leave me exhausted.

Sometimes I am too tired, and I am learning to decline the early morning tasks and meetings. This was not always the case, but my new normal makes it necessary. Now people need to understand and be willing to accommodate my schedule and needs at times. It seems only fair since I have lost tons of sleep over the decades accommodating others.

Please let me sleep in the morning

Now, I am not asking people to get up at 2 or 3 AM for me. I am not asking you to give up your sleep, and that is more consideration than many have given me. I am asking for you to schedule things later in the day so I can get some sleep. If you cannot do that, perhaps we need to schedule for another day.

I need to sleep. Some people have been annoyed because they like to get things done and get them out of the way. This is inconsiderate. I would never ask you to get out of bed in the middle of the night to do something, but that is exactly what you expect of me. I would never ask you to get up early when you are not feeling well, but that is what you are asking me to do.

A little compromise would help me get more sleep

Please keep in mind that I am so very tired at times and need all the rest I can get. I have given up so many hours of sleep to accommodate your schedule over the years. I do not think it is too much to ask for you to accommodate mine at times. Be considerate. I just need to sleep.

Do you have a sleep schedule that causes scheduling conflicts? How do you deal with scheduling issues? I would love to hear about your experience.

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