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Never Sleep

I understand that this is a no judge site and I understand that everyone experiences their own situation. But I'm reaching out hoping someone is like me. I've had insomnia for as long as I can remember (I'm 41). It takes me well over an hour to fall asleep and when I do I get like, 2 solid hours then I'm constantly tossing and turning and just trying to fall asleep again or else I'm wired and just can't sleep. On a great night I get 6 hours. A good night it's 4 and most nights tossing and turning and maaaaybbe 3 hours worth of sleep but usually clocked at 2 according to my fit bit. Does anyone else have this level of insomnia?

  1. Hey I myself am also 41 and have experienced insomnia for 30 yrs and I still have no relief. I sleep at most 1 hr at a time. Max! I cat nap when I can....and work 40-60hr weeks. Then on my day off usually 1 I crash all day long. Or go on sleepless for a month then my migraines get out of control and I get sick for a week. I have been on ambien for 25 years...and every other med too. Any help?

    1. Hi . It is possible anxiety is a factor and we really appreciate that you want to help. Still, we have to be careful not to give medical advice since we are not experts, though we encourage you to share what has helped in your own life. It sounds like this approach has worked for you. Do you sometimes suffer from insomnia? Warmly, Lori (Team Member)

    2. I have a neurologist and he is aware of the non sleeping. I have a psychiatrist and knows about ambien and I did CBT I and next steps is medical sleep studies to possibly see why nothing works. It's not anxiety I have changed locations and stopped taking meds. I've tried everything under the sun....you name it I have attempted. My primary care neurologist and psychiatrist are all aware of non sleep and still no help. It's so frustrating.

  2. Have you tried a different location? This used to work for me years ago. The bed puts too much pressure on you mentally to sleep. so I put a couch in my room instead and slept on it. It tells your mind sleep isnt a big deal since couches are used for naps. I still sleep on a couch to this day. I am starting to have issues sleeping again though so I am not sure it will work forever but for now it might.

    1. Hi . The stress of trying to sleep really can create a vicious cycle. I am glad you recognized that and found a way to break it. I hope sofa sleeping continues to help or that you find another way to effectively change your sleeping environment. Thanks for chiming in. Best wishes. - Lori (Team Member)

    2. I had the same situation and tried changing my sleeping position, changing my bed, moving it to the other corner of the room and so on. But I felt more burdened because it didn't work well for me. Rather, I had to try this process every day. So two months ago, I consulted a physiotherapist based on my friend's recommendation. Since I have been dealing with it for more than a year, my friend told me there must be some root cause for this. Physiotherapy heals the root cause rather than just giving prescriptions. And I felt it after I started the therapy. I am feeling better now. I started the treatment two months ago. It may take time to get an effective result. I hope so.

  3. I am so sorry to hear that you have such trouble falling asleep. I have been been a big fan of Melatonin for years to help me naturally fall asleep, but I do understand that some people don't mesh well with it. Have you ever tried Melatonin? Another thought and what works really well for my husband is taking CBD to help him sleep. He takes a sleep gummy with melatonin or sometimes he will also use a THC gummy to help him relax and go to sleep to. Sometimes have to do a little experimenting to determine what combo works best for you.

    1. Thanks for sharing what helps! - Lori (Team Member)

  4. I'm 65, had it all my life. In my younger time I would just wonder the streets or yard til I felt tired.
    Now I drug up. Still fighting to sleep.

    1. Hi . That's a long time. Do you at least get six hours or so of sleep with the medication? Thinking of you. - Lori (Team Member)

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