Hi all,
to make a long story short, I had trouble sleeping for five years, and I tried a lot of things that didn't help. I took all kinds of pills and supplements, but they often made things worse. I even had some really dark times where I nearly ended my life twice. For some lucky reason, I found The Sleep Coach School on YouTube, a channel by a sleep expert named Daniel Erichsen.
Daniel used to be a sleep physician, but he realized the conventional CBT-I approach didn’t really work well with his patients, so he developed an effortless approach to sleep.
From him, I’ve learned that there’s nothing you have to do to find peaceful sleep again, and that desperately trying to control sleep with routines and stimulus controls just gets in the way of a fundamentally natural process. It’s our anxiety around sleep that perpetuates the struggle, not having ‘bad’ sleep hygiene.
Another big one for me, as I have health anxiety, was learning that lack of sleep does not really affect your health, studies have shown that people with insomnia live just as long as others, and that you can do absolutely anything with very little sleep. I was surprised to find out I could still go to work and the gym even when I didn't sleep at all.
It's not a quick fix, though. It took me about 4-5 months of ups and downs to get better. But I did overcome my sleep problems gradually by learning to let go of my fears.
You can watch Daniel's videos for free on YouTube. If you need more help, there's an app where you can talk one-on-one with a sleep coach, or you can join a group of people who have regular calls with coaches. Also, if you want a summary of his teachings, you can check out his book called 'This is Natto.'